Some people find that changing things about themselves is a cheap way to be accepted. These are what you refer to as "losers", because that's what they are. They are called losers.

Self-improvement is a way to make yourself a better person by taking parts of yourself and making them better.

To make that an easier concept to digest, think of yourself as a computer. Right now, you're a bunk-ass computer; a freaking relic from a time when dial up was considered "the absolute shit" (shit in a good way). What do you do to make computers better? Well, if you aren't a degenerate that uses a Mac, you replace the parts with better ones.

1.) Don't be "the Nice Guy"

Oh my lord, these people are the worst. These are the kind of losers that think being nice will get you the things you want in life, because they think being nice automatically trumps any real life skill or any useful trait.

"No, Gab. You don't get it. I'm real nice. This girl I'm wooing? I'd never hit her in the face, because of that I definitely deserve to be her boyfriend."

Really? That's it? The only thing you have going for you is that you don't want to beat a girl's face in? That's such a sad thing to think about that you're almost one "How are you! :)" from being in the Friendzone.

Why can't you be the guy that drives expensive cars? Why can't you be a fighter pilot? A better question: why do you settle on being nice?

Pictured above: A loser's perception of reality.

Simply being nice won't do any person much good, because no one will settle for a nice guy for anything when they can settle for a nice fighter pilot.

2.) Understand that learning anything worth learning takes a long-ass time to learn

Learning anything requires patience and effort. It's a process, and like all processes, you'll fail along the way towards making it all work. Rome wasn't built in a day, so calm down when you're at your breaking point and things STILL aren't working out for you.

"Rome wasn't built in a day? How about two days?"

Even if you aren't building a city, it would still take months to actually say you know how to do something. And in learning a skill for your own improvement, it's important to understand that the only competition you have is yourself; the constant bouts of depression when you face no progress, the frustration of actually failing, and even keeping away disinterest are the things you need to fight off-- and they all come from you.

Learning a language? Being better at an online game? Understanding Accounting? All of these things, as well as many others, take time. So buck up.

Except Accounting. No one REALLY understands Accounting.

3.) Self-improvement needs consistency

Becoming a better person is a lifelong commitment. You don't quit after learning a set amount of skills. This maybe an annoying thing to put into perspective, so how about an analogy?
Self-improvement is the girl you meet in college; she's the kind of girl you have a lot of things in common with and the same girl you end up marrying after... like what? 5-10 years of being in a relationship?
That's Self-improvement. She isn't a dollar store hooker you ask for when you want a one night stand.

Self-improvement at 9 years old.